Yet more links

[brigdh]

Because I have so, so many tabs open.

1. Daughter of Necessity by Marie Brennan. Fascinating take on The Odyssey from Penelope's perspective. What does she weave, exactly?

2. on rats and men by potted_music. Gorgeous fic for The Terror, Gibson/Hickey. Warnings for everything you would expect from that pairing.

3. Who's got their hand in the oopsy jar? by Edonohana. Hot, hilarious, and perfect fic for A SImple Favor, with a simply genius ending. Emily/Stephanie, NC-17.

4. Fanvid for My Cat From Hell. The song choice alone killed me.

5. Great article on The Birth of the Cool Guy:
Cool Guy doesn’t knit, but he definitely owns a pink pussy hat (ordered from a female artist on Etsy, as he’ll conspicuously let you know). When he’s not tweeting about toxic masculinity, he’s hanging out in the replies on feminist threads, apologizing on behalf of all men everywhere for being such trash. Cool Guy writes a several-thousand-word New York Times op-ed flagellating himself for having ogled the butts of his teenage classmates once upon a time, in a quest to ignite a public movement of male confession with himself at its center (suggested hashtag: #IAmSexist)—or just fantasizes about a world where women have all the power and men simply cease to exist.

This is so terribly recognizable. And I feel describes not just dudes trying to do a show of woke-ness, but some white people with anti-racism as well, along with other similar categories. Sigh.

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[sovay]

This is so terribly recognizable. And I feel describes not just dudes trying to do a show of woke-ness, but some white people with anti-racism as well, along with other similar categories. Sigh.

Wow. Ouch. Yes. Thanks for the link.

(My sole caveat with it is the bit regarding Peter Coffin: I don't know them, but I do know AMAB non-binary people and not all of them are androgynous; having a beard doesn't mean a person is male and not being male is not always a function of disowning masculinity for ideological guilt reasons or overly narrow definitions of maleness. That sort of thing always jumps out at me. There are a lot of ways to be a man, but sometimes people just aren't.)

[brigdh]

(My sole caveat with it is the bit regarding Peter Coffin: I don't know them, but I do know AMAB non-binary people and not all of them are androgynous; having a beard doesn't mean a person is male and not being male is not always a function of disowning masculinity for ideological guilt reasons or overly narrow definitions of maleness. That sort of thing always jumps out at me. There are a lot of ways to be a man, but sometimes people just aren't.)

Yes, I agree (and should have mentioned that in my rec). I also don't know Peter Coffin and so perhaps the article writer's interpretation seems plausible to those who do, but in general it's far too easy to assume we know the what and the why of anyone else's gender, and to simplify it down to a bad faith interpretation when it suits our purposes. It's also hard to imagine the world where anyone gets so much benefit out of falsely claiming queer cred that they'd risk the associated drawbacks.

[osprey_archer]

I def. have a friend who sometimes edges into Cool Guy territory (although he's gay, which shapes the presentation of it so in some ways it was different from the article). He linked an article on Facebook a few weeks back about the importance of men letting women having the floor on women's issues and I restrained myself from leaving a comment to the effect of "Love the self-criticism! Looking forward to the way you'll shut up and listen next time I explain why reflexive sneering dismissal of Twilight grows out of deeply ingrained cultural misogyny!"

[brigdh]

I restrained myself from leaving a comment to the effect of "Love the self-criticism! Looking forward to the way you'll shut up and listen next time I explain why reflexive sneering dismissal of Twilight grows out of deeply ingrained cultural misogyny!"

Ha! Yeah, it's sadly a way too recognizable personality type.