I think the only point of view from which those things were obvious was the view from inside my head, but unfortunately that's the one I'm stuck with.

Yes. I do believe that she sincerely thinks we still could have been friends, and I think she would have made some effort. But I also think that, once given time to consider things, she would have found herself uncomfortable with little things like gossip or hugs, and that would have expanded to cover most everything. She would have cut off contact slowly instead of denouncing me, but from my perspective it would have been equally awful.

(Also, I adore your icon! It's one of the greatest things I've ever seen.)